By Kayla Woody, CPN House of Hope Prevention Specialist
Stalking and domestic violence are about power and control. In Oklahoma, both issues continue to run rampant, with 51% of women and 46% of men likely to experience domestic violence or stalking, which is an extension of abuse.
These statistics are alarming, as are the misconceptions surrounding domestic violence and stalking. How can we shift the conversation?
The first step is understanding the extent of domestic violence. Many believe abuse is solely physical, but emotional, psychological and financial abuse can be just as damaging. This type of abuse may also include constant belittling, gaslighting, isolation from loved ones or controlling finances to trap a partner. Often, these forms of abuse occur before physical violence begins, making warning signs harder to recognize.
Stalking is also misunderstood. Many assume it involves a stranger lurking in the shadows, but most victims know their stalker — whether it be an ex-partner, coworker or even a family member. Stalking can take the form of unwanted gifts, persistent messages or digital tracking, often escalating after a relationship ends. With technology, abusers have more ways than ever to monitor their victims.
For those experiencing stalking or domestic violence, it’s important to understand they are not at fault. There are several key steps that can be taken, though, to ensure their safety.
First, planning is essential. Survivors should document incidents meticulously, noting dates, times and interactions to establish a record in case legal action is needed. Additionally, switching up daily routines, driving different routes to work and turning off location services on digital devices can help minimize risk.
Most importantly, it’s crucial for victims to connect with organizations that can provide protective resources and emergency shelter. Leaving an abusive situation is challenging for many reasons, and having access to professional guidance makes a difference.
Domestic violence and stalking also impact victims’ loved ones. While these situations are distressing, you can help victims by encouraging safety planning and reminding them what healthy relationships look like. Providing resources ensures they have options when they’re ready to leave.
Education is key to breaking the cycle of abuse.
Teaching people about healthy relationships and early warning signs can help prevent future violence. We must listen, offer support without judgment and advocate for change.